I had a friend on one of my social media sites declare,

“I HATE MY LIFE”. And so I commented:

Teen years can especially bring that out...the "fitting in" part really never works for any of us and if you "fit in" one place you don't fit in someplace else....just gotta be the best YOU you can be and make your place in the world...trust me you are special and unique and don't stress out when "sometimes you really hate your life", you are supposed to sometimes...it forces us to choose who and what we really want to be and can help us find our values...if you find out what your values are and do your best to live them no matter what others say you will have a real chance of being you...and that is the best thing in the world....you can do it...I believe in you, sweetheart! Take care!!

She wrote back saying that she did not have any problem fitting in it was her home life with her parents and their rules that was the pain. I continued:

hmmm, this is not an uncommon human condition either...and it can cause real pain and frustration, confusion... this is the part of the journey where you get to make some really significant choices (and believe me the pain, frustration, and confusion does not get easier in life, in fact it gets more intense, but it is this very thing or stuff that helps you to mold and create YOU and define who you are)...

and you do this by your choices...You can get angry because some things really are just not fair...and while I am sure YOUR PARENTS LOVE AND CARE for you SOME do not because they are caught in their own stuff or really because they do not like themselves so they have no real place to give from...so they try to control the world around them hoping to give the next generation a better chance...what they do not realize (and some do realize and don't care or don't know what else to do) is that until they love themselves they really can't change or direct anything else, not in a good way anyhow, rather they can only continue to create the pain, frustration, and confusion they feel within themselves for others...I do not think that all parents who feel like this do not love and care for their kids, they just do not know how to express it so the child can feel safe and loved…

soooo...the teenager (and all of us for the rest of our lives) get to decide if we get angry and SHOW THEM, if you know what I mean...and we do that lots of ways. You know how you do it and you see it in school and community everyday how people deal with life from a place of anger...there are addictions of every type, ...whew....but seriously, true Happiness comes from a place of being true to yourself and I believe we all came from a place of love...so the choice becomes remembering where we come from and making our decisions from a place of love and loving those who mess us over...no matter how frustrating, confusing, or painful those people or circumstances outside us may be.... because this is the source of personal peace and happiness...not that there won't be moments of frustration, pain, and confusion where we need to VENT ARGH"/, lol, yet because we come from a place of love we get "back in there" and be the best "me" we can be : )

what I am talking about is not giving away your personal power and freedom to be YOU...when you go into the anger place you lose your freedom and become a slave to the influences of others...instead, return love and helpfulness when you are asked to do something that is or seems unfair and show kindness for cruelty or meanness, it allows YOU to maintain YOUR FREEDOM of choice...., what you really need will be met and when you feel especially frustrated with someone leave them a note of gratitude for who they are and it will diffuse the effect of the "wrong" they have done to you and real love and appreciation will grow inside of you for them and you will be very grateful for that someday, if not today... love ya...hope this makes a bit of sense....ARGH,:/ :/  been there done that, REALLY!!!  : D

What does this have to do with scriptures? Well, it comes from there. It is the foundation I build my life on. It is the hope I have in Christ and the atonement that he gave that I might have life everlasting and abundant. And knowing this I have a great desire to share that with others.

Seriously the council I have given is foundational in the scriptures. And this is why I live and why I write.

Till next time. Ann